1. That you love and accept me just the way I am.

For the first few years you tried to change me, but when you started celebrating me... I believe that one act as my husband, released me to allow the Holy Spirit to do the work that desperately needed and still needs to be done in me!

2. That you take care of your physical body.

For 15 years I left health books open & nagged you - but for the last 16 years you have been conscientious about the gift of your physical body. Healthy eating – exercising daily – taking your sups religiously - drinking the crazy looking but healthy green concoctions I come up with that will help you live longer! You’re the sexiest 56 year old man I know!

3. That you validate me when I’m acting a mess.

I know when I’m behaving poorly, believing lies, allowing my grief or pain to get the upper hand... but you almost always take the high road, seek to understand, and choose empathy instead of judgment.

4. That you live a godly life.

I realize a pastor should do this, but you do it because you genuinely love and want to please God, and be an example to others. The integrity you live with is real. Your recognition that remaining under the waterfall of God’s love and grace is your anchor, brings stability to our relationship, home, and those you lead.

5. That you are a learner.

Not a week goes by that you haven’t learned some new skill or read some fresh information about an activity or interest. Your hunger for growth inspires me to reach higher.

6. That you live and lead by conviction. 

I’m not sure how many times I’ve heard you say to our kids, our team, or me, “I’m doing this because it’s the right thing to do. This is in our best interest. I want you to feel secure if ‘something happens.’”

7. That you put on music while we’re doing the finances.

You make life fun! I love how we giggle over the silliest things. How you are always looking for ways to bring a smile to my face or laughter into even the mundane tasks of life.

8. That you believe the best in our kids at every season.

Your reaction to our children’s births was laughter because of the joy you felt! You practiced every sport with them & went to every game, did homework, showed them how to live well, disciplined in love, told them they could do anything, believed the best when they made mistakes... have cheered them on from the moment they existed.

9. That you have an adventuresome spirit.

Regardless of the season of your journey, you choose risk, excitement, life. I am in awe of your thirst for things that thrill your heart and how you ‘go for it’ with every fiber of your being.

10. That you send me kind & romantic texts.

One of the most recent:

  • I love you!!
  • So proud to be your husband!!
  • You are hot hot hot!!
  • I’m very fond of you!!
  • I love how you love people!!
  • Everybody wants to be your friend...
  • Me included!!
  • Can’t wait to go on our anniversary trip!!

I’m not sure why God chose to gift you to me, but I am so very grateful!

You are my very best friend. We share the most beautiful love a girl could desire. You are my forever dream come true! Thank you for your faithfulness and undying love.