We are hardwired with a longing to rule and reign and take dominion, to lead, to build, and with a desire to make a lasting impact with our lives. These are good, God given things, but our lives get slightly wacky when we seek to fill those innate desires in unhealthy ways.
Women throughout time have fought this battle for significance. Women like Eve, who had everything she could possibly desire and yet, when tempted, still chose to eat the forbidden fruit in the garden. Women like Sarai, who were on the receiving end of a promise from God, yet took matters into her own hands with her maidservant Hagar to get ahead of God’s plan. In so doing, a child entered into the world who wasn’t heir to the promise and a whole host of struggles followed suit. Women like Esther who was whisked away to royalty and could have placed her identity in her title, her beauty and the beauty of her surroundings, and yet was called to possibly lay it all down by risking her own life to bravely save her people. Women like Leah, who was less loved than her sister, Rachel, and given to her husband in marriage by trickery from her Father. And Rachel, the more loved of the two was desired by Jacob, the husband she shared with her sister, but she struggled with an inability to bear children while her sister popped them out like Pez candies.
I don’t know about you, but I can relate. No matter how much we achieve and attain or how far we go in life it seems that search for more is always there. If we are not seeking to fulfill that longing to feel like we matter and make a difference by finding our identities in Christ alone, then we are sure to seek it out in something else. And this world is full of things vying to deliver what only staying connected to God can. John 15:5 reminds us there is only one sure way to live lives that impact this world greatly. Jesus himself spoke these words:
"I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you're joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can't produce a thing.”
That longing we have in our hearts for significance is a wiring only working from a place of staying connected to Christ can fulfill. When we live joined with him, anchored as His Beloved, we experience abundant lives. Separated, we can’t produce anything of lasting value. Let’s put our anchors down deep in his love for us and trust him to work in and through us to live impactful lives!
Let’s dig deeper into this battle for significance:
- Where are you tempted to find your identity?
- What around you is most tempting when it comes to taking matters into your own hands in order to feel significant?
- What makes you feel threatened on your journey to living a significant life?
- As a child, did you feel significant in your family? What words were spoken over you then and how does that shape your understanding of your significance now and the way you seek to fulfill that need in your life today.
For further reflection:
Read the stories of Eve (Genesis 2 & 3), Sarai (whose name was later changed to Sarah) (Genesis 15, 16, & 17), Leah and Rachel (Genesis 29 & 30). For each reading, write out in your journal your thoughts on their personal struggles to find significance. How do you see yourself in their stories? How might you have done things differently? How does seeing God’s redemptive love woven through out give you hope that even if you have made mistakes, he can redeem it? Lastly, ask God to show you from these readings any areas you might need to make adjustments in, in order to stay living from a place of being anchored in him.